Being an Asian Indian and American

For almost the past two years, I have been trying to start an Indian importing business called Komal Style Boutique.  I am originally from India, so have a natural attachment to anything Indian and want to combine that with my interest in business and having a venue to be able to do socially-conscious work in India.  I’ve come to learn over the years that my interest in India may be greater than it is to many who are from India and that it is somewhat complicated as I have also had some frustrations with my heritage.  At times, I have had a “love/hate” relationship with India.  As an Indian/American going to India, I have been frustrated by not being able to efficiently get things done and struggling with issues such as finding a decent toilet when traveling there.  That was quickly surpassed by seeing all the beauty and spirit around me;  in the smiles on the faces of villagers and the serenity of women going about their daily rituals.

I am also proud to be an American and to have grown up here.  The pride in being both an American and an Indian have at times conflicted.  I’ve defended Americans when Indians said they don’t care about the elderly.  I had personal experience at the time of knowing someone who took great care of his elderly mother.  I’ve defended India against limited views and perspectives some Americans have had of the country, such as believing it is just like what they might see on a Sally Struthers commercial depicting people struggling with poverty. Many Indians take offense to this view and for this reason object to movies like “Slum Dog Millionaire.”  They want people to know that Indian life is much more broad and India is emerging very rapidly as a country to be reckoned with.  In fact, the most new  millionaires have been from India recently.

There is a huge increasing middle-class and the normal middle-class lifestyle of having a cook, maid, nanny, and perhaps a driver.  They didn’t understand the simplicity of life and the ordinariness of it at times, how the days for many women consisted of domestic pursuits such as making sure there were three great meals, visiting neighbors and relatives over savory snacks and chai, and of course getting a nap in every day around 3pm.  It is a pleasant, mellow life.  In comparison, most women here are running around trying to multi-task as much as possible to try to cross a few things off on their “Things to do list.”

It is good to understand different cultures and have respect for one another.  Americans would want people in other cultures to know that life here is more than what they see in an old John Wayne western.  It’s perhaps a good start, though, to getting a glimpse of the wonderful American spirit.