Underminers are the “Debbie Downers” of the world. Debbie Downer is a popular character from Saturday Night Live who always had something negative to say and found some ways to rain on everyone’s parades about everything. Debbie Downers are the party poopers of the world. Felt good about something and then you shared it with Debbie? Well now you feel stupid and terrible about it.
I apologize for having so often forgotten you. I became acquainted with and at times overtaken by Fear. I see now that you have been the greater faithful friend, the one who can guide me to peace. You deserved more loyalty from me. Fear hasn’t taken me to any place I can find happiness in.
I long for soulitude,
to rest, breathe…
calm my mind, body and soul.
You love me…
but only want a small piece of me,
the piece you accept and approve.
You were thoughtless.
I overlooked. Drip..
You were inconsiderate.
I thought maybe I misunderstood..Drip…
In my calmest and most clarified moments, I see…that all is well. Regardless of the choices made and paths taken, in the end, no matter what, all will be well. As we near our end, there is not much that will matter or concern us. We must let go of all there was and choose […]
Abusers want you to believe they have big hearts, if you dig down far enough, as you’re repeatedly told and encouraged to believe, by them and those under their influence and control. Still can’t find it?
The term, “co-parenting” with a narc is actually a paradox. There is absolutely no co-parenting with a narc. The concept is counter to their inherent make-up. Understanding and accepting this would go far in helping a parent stuck in this situation to cope.
An easy popular weeknight or any night kid favorite meal is naan pizza. Just spread your favorite sauce, toppings and cheese (or not) and you’re done! My 6 year-old loves basil pesto on the naan, along with mozzarella. I can normally add a green like kale or spinach as toppings without protest.
“Many problems that we take for granted are not really necessary; they arise from attention getting distracted and caught without our consent. For example, all of us are familiar with the toll negative memories can take. When they come up, they simply won’t let us alone. They claim our attention, and dwelling on them only […]